“Be Remembered for Your Hugs”

As I was getting ready for work today, I turned on CNN. I’m not typically super interested in what is going on in the world; however, I do recognize that the best way to stay relevant is to not bury your head in the sand and pretend the world doesn’t have problems around you.

I got a lot of what I expected – ISIS, news on this biker shoot out in Waco, the debate on Hillary Clinton’s integrity, and some Amtrak crash updates. What I did not expect was a specific angle of the Amtrak crash that I got to hear. CNN interviewed a woman named Jacqueline. She is of significance because she is the widow of the final victim being laid to rest today. I was floored by her ability to maintain composure and poise as she discussed the love of her life. She seemed so kind and almost at peace and did not appear angry at the situation. She was not demanding answers. She was living in the moment and fondly remembered the hugs of her late husband. She described him as a kind, gentle family man that loved life and had an uncompromising compassion for others.

I’ll admit, I got a little teary eyed. It was a strange sensation to witness that type of emotion, and it has inspired me. We get so bogged down every day in things that we can’t change, in matters that are of little relevance to the big picture, and in satisfying “needs” that aren’t actually needed. I want to focus every day being as kind as I can to everyone around me. I want to enhance every relationship with those that I call friend, and always – always – make them feel special. I want to surround myself with those whom add value to my life. By value, I don’t mean gifts or material things. I mean those that encourage, challenge, uplift, comfort, and are brutally honest with me when necessary. I want to do the same for them.

I want to be remembered for my ‘hugs’ whether they be literal or metaphorical. I may not (nor ever) have a spouse to fondly remember me after my passing, but I know I at least want to remembered as a man who loved and respected others. I want to be a man remembered for the positive impact he had, and I’m going to use that as my filter for ever decision I make going forward.

I hope you choose a similar path.

Until next time,


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